We men have no idea how horrific rape is. We have seen the tragic story of Tamar’s rape at the hands of Amnon and his subsequent hatred of her. Let’s continue our reading in 2 Samuel 13 —
A report that Absalom had killed all the king’s sons comes to David and David mourns at the news (v. 31). Uncle Jonadab (the one who arranged for the rape of Tamar) reports that only Amnon was killed as punishment for his raping Absalom’s sister Tamar (v. 33).
Absalom flees. David’s sons return, confirming Jonadab’s statement. The sons wail loudly and “very bitterly” as does the king and all his attendants. King David mourned many days for his son Amnon; Absalom fled to the king of Geshur, staying there three years. We then read, “And King David longed to go to Absalom, for he was consoled concerning Amnon’s death.” (v. 39).
One takeaway for me: It seems to me that King David had to know of Tamar’s rape — and he did nothing about it! Justice — swift justice — is a requirement in a civilized society. Otherwise, revenge seems the only option to some.