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The friendship of Saul’s son Jonathan and David is a beautiful truth in this text (a story greatly perverted by those with a homosexual agenda). Jonathan “became one in spirit with David”, we are told, for “he loved him as himself” (v. 1). Jonathan makes a covenant with David “because he loved him as himself (v. 3). He gave David his robe and tunic and his weapons!
The Lord gave David success on whatever mission assigned to him by Saul. It’s not easy to please “all the troops and the officers” of the army, but David did!
Military success is one thing. But adulation is quite another. The women of the towns sing to David, emphasizing his slaying “tens of thousands” versus Saul’s slaying only “thousands.” This makes Saul very angry and he asks, “What more can David get but the kingdom?” (v. 8).
“An evil spirit from God” comes forcefully on Saul while he is prophesying. While David is playing his lyre, Saul hurls a spear at David. Twice. We are told that “Saul was afraid of David, because the Lord was with David but had departed from Saul” (v. 12).
Saul sends David away to command the troops and we are told that “in everything he did he had great success, because the Lord was with him.” (v. 14). Saul is overcome by a fear of David and his successes, but David is loved by all Israel and Judah (v. 16).
Saul plans David’s demise, promising his older daughter Merab to him if he will “only serve me bravely and fight the battles of the Lord” (v. 17). Saul says to himself, “I will not raise a hand against him. Let the Philistines do that!” [This certainly foreshadows what David himself will do when he has to get rid of Uriah!].
David’s response to King Saul’s offer of his daughter is one of humility: “Who am I, and what is my family or my clan in Israel, that I should become the king’s son-in-law?” (v. 18). But Saul did not keep his word — and subsequently gives his daughter Merab to someone else!
Some takeaways for me:
1. Jealousy is a very real danger — and can be born in any believer’s heart. I must be careful when it comes to others’ receiving praise. I am to rejoice with those who rejoice!
2. I want to long for the Lord to be “with” me. “With” here in this context means much more than a kind of physical presence. The Lord’s being “with” David produces fear in Saul (v. 12), leading him to try to kill David.
3. Any of us can use religious language to justify our agenda! Saul speaks of David’s fighting “the battles of the Lord” — and he wants him dead!
4. Disappointments will come to us. They may not be the reneging of a daughter’s hand in marriage, but people don’t always keep their word.
One of the many attributes of God which is seldom preached on — is His JEALOUSY! But, wait a minute! Isn’t jealousy as SIN? How can it be right for God to be jealous and for us not to be? As with all other questions, we need to ask not what we think, but what does the Bible actually say?
Here are some texts on the jealousy of God:
Exodus 20:5 – You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me,
Exodus 34:14 – Do not worship any other god, for the Lord, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God.
Deuteronomy 4:24 – For the Lord your God is a consuming fire, a jealous God.
Deuteronomy 32:16 – They made him jealous with their foreign gods and angered him with their detestable idols.
Psalm 78:58 – They angered him with their high places; they aroused his jealousy with their idols.
Psalm 79:5 – How long, Lord? Will you be angry forever? How long will your jealousy burn like fire?
Ezekiel 16:42 – Then my wrath against you will subside and my jealous anger will turn away from you; I will be calm and no longer angry.
Nahum 1:2 – [ The Lord’s Anger Against Nineveh ] The Lord is a jealous and avenging God; the Lord takes vengeance and is filled with wrath. The Lord takes vengeance on his foes and vents his wrath against his enemies.
Zephaniah 1:18 – Neither their silver nor their gold will be able to save them on the day of the Lord’s wrath.” In the fire of his jealousy the whole earth will be consumed, for he will make a sudden end of all who live on the earth.
Zechariah 8:2 – This is what the Lord Almighty says: “I am very jealous for Zion; I am burning with jealousy for her.”
James 4:5 – Or do you think Scripture says without reason that he jealously longs for the spirit he has caused to dwell in us?
There is no doubt that God is a jealous God, that idolatry makes Him furious, that His jealousy is intimately connected to His anger and vengeance, etc. We even read in the book of Numbers about a law of jealousy: Numbers 5:15 – then he is to take his wife to the priest. He must also take an offering of a tenth of an ephah of barley flour on her behalf. He must not pour olive oil on it or put incense on it, because it is a grain offering for jealousy, a reminder-offering to draw attention to wrongdoing.
However, believers are told in Romans 13:13- Let us behave decently, as in the daytime, not in carousing and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and debauchery, not in dissension and jealousy. We also read in 2 Corinthians 12:20 – For I am afraid that when I come I may not find you as I want you to be, and you may not find me as you want me to be. I fear that there may be discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, slander, gossip, arrogance and disorder. The Apostle Paul says in 2 Corinthians 11:2 – I am jealous for you with a godly jealousy. I promised you to one husband, to Christ, so that I might present you as a pure virgin to him.
How are we to understand the jealousy of God? The answer, I believe, is that there is a godly jealousy. Just as there is a godly hatred and a godly anger, there is a godly jealousy. How can jealousy be a virtue in God and a vice in men?
- Biblical statements about God’s jealousy are anthropomorphic, i.e. descriptions of God in language drawn from the life of man. In reading anthropomorphisms, we need to remember that man isn’t the measure of his Maker, and that none of the limitations of humanhood are implied. Consequently, God’s jealousy isn’t tainted with frustration, envy and spite, but is a zeal to preserve something precious.
- There are two kinds of jealousy among men. One says, “I want what you’ve got, and I hate you because I haven’t got it.” The other is manifested in romantic relationships, and is the fruit of marital affection. This sort of jealousy is a positive virtue, as its aim is to keep the marriage intact.
John Stott says, “In the second commandment God goes on to describe himself as ‘a jealous God’. There is no need to be disturbed by this. Jealousy is a resentment of rivals, and whether it is good or evil depends on whether the rival has any right to be there. Since God is unique, and there is no other, he has the right to ask that we worship him alone.” (John Stott, from page 96 Christian Basics, Grand Rapids: Eerdmans, 1969).
J.I. Packer in his Knowing God put it best: “But there is another sort of jealousy—zeal to protect a love-relationship, or to avenge it when broken. This jealousy also operates in the sphere of sex; there, however, it appears, not as the blind reaction of wounded pride, but as the fruit of marital affection. As Professor Tasker has written, married persons ‘who felt no jealousy at the intrusion of a lover or an adulterer into their home would surely be lacking in moral perception; for the exclusiveness of marriage is the essence of marriage’ (The Epistle of James p.106). This sort of jealousy is a positive virtue, for it shows a grasp of the true meaning of the husband-wife relationship, together with a proper zeal to keep it intact.”
Are you thankful for God’s JEALOUSY today?